Are You Isolated or Insulated?

Have you ever thought that being single was taboo? I used to feel like I didn't always fit in at church and in this married driven culture. But singles aren't different, inferior, or even outcasts. In fact in America today, there are more single adults than married couples, and yet the perception is that being single is somehow a "bad thing." The truth however is just the opposite.

God never said it wasn't good to be single, He said that "it wasn't good to be alone".  The challenge then becomes this - as a single, are you isolated or insulated?

Wester's defines isolated as - far away from others, or having minimal contact with others. I see loneliness and depression in so many singles today because they are isolated from others. They might have lot's of Facebook friends, but no one really knows them. They don't really have someone to talk with, to share with, to pray with. Isolated, they go through daily life surviving but never thriving, existing but never really happy. 

Here is the truth - we were all created for relationship. That doesn't just mean romantic / dating relationships...no, it means we need friends, good friends who are a strong part of our lives. Someone you can be honest and open with without the fear of rejection and ridicule. That's what it means to be insulated. You're not alone, exposed to the elements of life. You're insulated, protected, and covered.

The singles I talk to are encouraged to belong to a small group. We know that challenge are going to come into their lives and we never want them to go through them alone. But unfortunately, when challenges do come, many times it's easier to pull away and isolate because of embarrassment, not wanting to be judged, and even pride.

When you're connected in a small group - there is friendship, trust, and safety. A sense of belonging and connection that you can never when you're alone. Most importantly you will find encouragement when you're struggling, and someone to lift you up when you are down.

You need to know that being single isn't a permanent condition - but just a season, a chapter, a moment in your life. So relax and enjoy it! Come find relationship in our community. God loves you! We love you, and we pray that you never feel isolated and alone.

Roxanne and I invite you to join us in REAL Singles for "REAL discussions about REAL issues faced by REAL Singles."